I Changed Motherhood With Three Words

I am not a glass half full type of person. I want to be, really I do. The truth is that I have always been a worrier and I find many aspects of motherhood mentally and emotionally draining. Some mornings I wake up already exhausted by the thought of the mundane tasks ahead.

I have to get up and get everyone ready for school. I have to go to Target to find a birthday gift for a kid I don’t even know. I have to think of a healthy dinner my entire family will enjoy. I have to check homework, make snacks, drag everybody to dance class, robotics, and tae kwon do. I’ll have to play 5 rounds of Candyland and read Amelia Bedelia until I’m near tears.

Maybe it is that I am getting older and seeing so many mothers with challenges, or maybe I knew I needed a desperate change in my thought process, but I have changed my thinking from I have to into I get to. These three simple words have changed everything for me.

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Now when I think about my daily tasks I approach them with the realization that getting to is a gift.

When I start stringing together all of the silly things my husband does that drive me crazy, I think of the woman that I assisted at a local food pantry who had recently moved out of a domestic abuse shelter. I’m reminded that I should never take for granted having a partner who supports me and a home where I get to feel safe.

I think of the boy in my son’s third-grade class who stole his classmate’s snacks all year. I wonder if his mama woke up with a knot in her stomach because she knew she would not get to pack him one. How could I have forgotten that getting to provide food for my children is not an annoyance but a luxury not everyone has?

As I find out that my friend with two small children who has battled cancer for years is now on hospice care, I am grounded in the reality that I get to.

Today I get to be a mother.

I get to wrap my arms around my littles and watch them grow. I get to provide them with everything they need and some of what they want. I get to teach them the hard lessons of life and I get to watch them fail. I get to practice patience and I get to make mistakes. Today will not be perfect, today I will not love all things, but I am humbled by the simple fact that today I have been given another chance to get to.

6 Responses to I Changed Motherhood With Three Words

  1. Lisa D. August 14, 2015 at 4:42 pm #

    Great blog…I can definitely relate to this! Made me cry!

    • Jessica August 15, 2015 at 3:48 pm #

      Thank you for your kind words!

  2. Courtney August 16, 2015 at 12:16 am #

    So true! Perspective is so important. Not everyday is good, but there is good in everyday.

  3. Jessica August 18, 2015 at 9:07 pm #

    Courtney, you are so right!

  4. Cheryl July 8, 2016 at 10:28 am #

    I read your blog and thought – I think all those things (tasks) every day with the same exhaustion and add to your list; a full time job, having had to drop my little ones off at daycare (only to let all THOSE women do what I only wish I could do with my kids all day while at work), being the Man and Woman of the house with both roles of jobs to do (being a single Mom/parent), and not having a spouse to help with some mundane tasks and a sense of humor and a hug to help me get by.

    I understand how you have to turn your thinking around, as I have had to remind myself when I am so overwhelmed with the details of raising my boys, that I GET TO do things with them that other mothers might not – the homeless mothers, the terminally ill, etc.

    You are so right – remember that we GET TO participate in witnessing our children turn into young adults and we got to see it all happen. What a privilege!

  5. Laurie September 27, 2016 at 8:18 pm #

    I love this thank you so much for sharing! I have a four month old daughter and I love that I get to watch her smile and grow.

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