I was 31 when I had my first child. We tried for over a year and a half, and when we found out I was pregnant we were ecstatic. I had a fantastic pregnancy (don’t get jealous) and enjoyed every minute. The only “issue” was some mild heartburn toward the end and the fact that I hated the taste of bananas. The delivery, however, was a different story. Basically, she got “stuck” and then wouldn’t come out (a sign of her stubbornness I am sure), which prompted an emergency c-section.
After a few years, we knew we wanted to have another child, so we starting trying again. It took a while to get pregnant again, and this time it was double trouble. I was 35 years old, and that is when I heard that terrible word- geriatric. The medical field says it so nonchalantly, as if they were stating your eye color or something. When I first heard them say that I was having a geriatric pregnancy, I thought “Wow- am I really that old?” To me I felt like I was supposed to have a walker and bifocals. I mean, I know I have a few gray hairs, but geriatric? Really?
I was in the midst of a “higher risk” pregnancy, but to me I didn’t feel any different than others that I knewwho were pregnant. I didn’t want to be considered “old”. Luckily- everything went well with my second pregnancy. I felt great, didn’t have any sickness, and I carried the twins until 37 1/2 weeks. Don’t get me wrong- I was HUGE, but other than that it went really well.
As I look back at it, I am ok with the geriatric label. I am happy with my timeline. My partner and I have been together for 17 years, and we were together for ten years before we had our first daughter. I would not trade those ten years for anything. In those ten years we grew together, traveled, got our masters degrees, built our careers, and enjoyed making memories together. If we would have decided to have kids right away those years would have been drastically different. We built a solid foundation upon which we were able to start a family.
So if you find yourself in the geriatric category don’t be ashamed. Be proud of what you have accomplished so far, and know that your personal story and timeline is just as amazing and unique as those who have kids right away.