I’m pregnant. After my miscarriage last summer, it feels so great to be able to say those words again. While there are a million emotions that go along with this journey, and the past few months are sort of a blur of nausea, fatigue, anxiety and denial, I can honestly say that I woke up a few weeks ago in full-on nesting mode. That isn’t to say that I’m experiencing this pregnancy with the same light-heartedness that I did with my first child, but I feel ready (finally) to enjoy this pregnancy, and want to prepare to be a mother again. Yes, I realize there is no guarantee of a healthy baby in June. I realize I will never relax until the moment I am able to hold my child, and that there will be nights I don’t sleep because of all the worries running through my head. But today I am pregnant, and today I want to enjoy being pregnant.
That being said, once I reached the second trimester, we began to announce our news to family and friends. It wasn’t long before questions about the baby’s sex began popping up – did I have any feelings one way or the other? When would I find out? WOULD I find out? Did I have a preference? And what about all those old wives’ tales, the one’s that seem to pop up just for occasions like pregnancy? While learning the baby’s sex is pretty low on my list of concerns this pregnancy, I can’t help but get swept into the excitement of it all. Thinking about my baby in terms of boy or girl makes me feel so connected to the person inside me – one of many reasons that I cannot wait until birth to find out what I’m having (the number one reason being that I am horribly impatient).
I will find out in just over a week (hopefully) and until then, old wives’ tales are all I have to go on. There are so many it would be impossible to talk about them all, but I thought it would be fun (and a nice escape from the anxiety I am often feeling this time around) to talk about some of those “theories”, what they are, and what they “predict” for my baby. In the comments, let me know if you have tried any of these (or others) and whether they were right for your kids. Here we go!
The Pencil Test:
For whatever reason, this is the famous test in my husband’s family. It has been right for 5 out of 5 nieces and nephews now. It sounds ridiculous, and I thought it was ridiculous, but I have to say, it was right with my son!
- Stick a needle into the top of a pencil eraser
- Place a thread within the needle
- Place the mother’s wrist on the table, palm up
- Hold the string over the women’s wrist and watch which way it swings: side to side is a GIRL. Swaying from hand to elbow is a BOY.
My result: GIRL!
The Baking Soda Test:
This was a new one for me. I hadn’t heard of it until this pregnancy, and then as soon as I did, I couldn’t rest until I tried it. My husband probably thought I was losing my mind when I escaped to the bathroom with a paper cup and a box of baking soda, but he’s just a chemist…what does he know? : )
How to: Pee in a cup. Pour 2 tablespoons of baking soda into the urine and see what happens. If it fizzes like soda it’s a boy. No fizz = girl.
My result: GIRL!
The Chinese Gender Calendar:
This seems to be a pretty common little test these days, and while it was wrong for me with my son, I want to give it another chance this time around.
How to: Plug in your age (apparently it needs to be your Chinese age, so consult the chart for accuracy) and the month you conceived, and it tells you what you will be having.
My result: BOY!
This theory has been around for a long time. One of the first things my father in law said when we told him we were pregnant (after the usual congratulations, of course) was “what was the heartbeat?” He said the heartbeat test worked with all of his kids.
Supposedly girl’s heart rates are higher than boys. A heart rate in the 140+ range is supposed to suggest girl, while a heart rate lower than 140 is supposedly a boy.
My result: GIRL!
This method was based on a study done on pregnant women and the location of their placentas in relation to the baby. While I thought it sounded pretty interesting when I read about it online, my ultrasound technician burst my bubble and told me she’d never heard of it and that she couldn’t tell for sure which side my placenta was going to be on (this was at 10 weeks).
This is complicated, because it depends on the type of ultrasound the mother receives. For trans-vaginal, the image is as is, but for abdominal, the image is mirrored. Also, because the ultrasound techs are moving so quickly, it can be hard to determine where your placenta is just based on a picture. It’s best to ask the technician directly.
My result: INCONCLUSIVE (but probably on the right, so BOY!)
With my son, I ate 2 or 3 apples a day. I craved anything sour – apples, orange juice, salt & vinegar chips (which I normally don’t like) and sour candy. I was convinced (and was right!) that I was having a boy because I always imagined my cravings being intense versions of things I already like (cake, doughnuts, sweets, for example).
When pregnant with a girl, supposedly the mother will crave sweet things. With a boy, sour or salty.
My result: GIRL! (I could eat cookies, cake or doughnuts this entire pregnancy, I swear)
So while most of the theories seem to be predicting a girl for me this time around, my mother’s intuition is still undecided. I was convinced I was having a boy when I was pregnant with my son, and wasn’t surprised at all when we found out for sure. This time around, I am still leaning towards a boy, but that could be because I can’t imagine anything else! I will update my post after my ultrasound at the end of the month. Until then, keep me busy with more theories to investigate.